During the holiday season, many of us are reminded of the importance of family, connection, and gratitude. Yet, for some, this time of year can also bring tension, old disagreements, or complicated emotions. Finding gratitude for the people in our lives—especially when relationships aren’t perfect—can feel challenging, but it’s one of the most powerful ways to build peace and emotional resilience.
Gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring hurt or pretending everything is fine. Instead, it’s about choosing to focus on what is good, even in difficult situations. It might mean appreciating a loved one’s effort, their sense of humor, or the lessons they’ve taught you—whether intentional or not. Every relationship, even imperfect ones, offers an opportunity for growth and understanding.
Here are a few helpful strategies to cultivate gratitude in your relationships:
- Shift from judgment to curiosity. When someone’s behavior frustrates you, ask yourself, “What might they be struggling with?” Compassion allows space for gratitude to grow.
- Practice small, daily acknowledgments. Send a kind text, express appreciation out loud, or quietly reflect on what someone has contributed to your life.
- Focus on progress, not perfection. Appreciate small efforts and the positive intentions behind people’s actions.
Gratitude also strengthens emotional health. Studies show it lowers stress, improves mood, and helps us maintain perspective during challenging times. When we intentionally look for the good in others, we often end up feeling more grounded, more connected, and more at peace with ourselves.
This holiday season, try to find one thing to appreciate in every person you encounter. Gratitude doesn’t erase differences—it transforms how we experience them.
Inner City Family Services provides a wide range of behavioral health services to support individuals and families. We believe in a holistic approach, and are here to bridge gaps in mental health services and provide comprehensive support tailored to each individual’s needs. For more information, please visit: icfsdetroit.com
By Nichollas Rayfield, LPC
Clinical Director, Inner City Family Services – Detroit
